Well, this happened somewhat in this way, may be the experienced one can relate, she was only two years and two months and was very excited to take her little sister in lap, to my surprise I had seen my little daughter to be grown in to an elder sister. But, the very next moment, she was much more interested in playing with her, touching her head, pulling her hair, poking her eyes and nose and also jumping on the bed where the newborn slept. The result - I panicked for the little life, if Chini jumped on her sister and the little one would have been smashed! So, I found myself scolding her, shooing her away to the other room and that’s how it started. My elder daughter with a sad face used to leave the room or at times decided to disobey her mother.
Slowly, she realized that mama, didn’t take her to the lap, mama always carried the little baby and nursed her. The jealousy kicked in, and she became revengeful, which used to come out in the shapes of various tantrums, mostly trying to harm the baby or yelling to be carried at the middle of night. I became puzzled but I tried to squeeze out more time from the new born routine, giving her everyday shower, helping her to be toilet trained, taking her out for a walk, feeding her. But that did not seem to help, because she wanted her mother back, not the part of it. Even the sight of her little sister used to irritate her. Anyways, one night she woke up and started crying and wanted her to be carried and was telling me “give away sister to somebody I want to sleep in your lap”, after hours of negotiation and love and pampering, followed by scolding she went back to sleep. That was the time, I was in India, things got very hectic when I came back to my place.
My younger daughter was very demanding, she slept less, nursed more, almost round the clock (she was more or less the same till fifteen months), so I could afford very little time to my elder child. Apart from her daily routines I could not give her anytime. But the good part was that her father took over after coming back from work. I had to make her sit quietly so that the little one could sleep and I could finish my chores. The poor thing couldn’t even play on her own because one small noise and the little one wakes up. Good time started once she started going to her play school. At least the morning time she could play with her friends and afternoon she could rest.
I miss my days with my elder daughter alone but wonder how I am handling these two together. I miss sleeping with her peacefully and at times admire that how independent she had been. She loves playing on her own, very unlikely to her sibling. She did not get her mother in the first year of her life but she never complained. As soon as she became two she got one competitor, she agitated but coped up. Now apart from snatching things or hitting incidents at times, the big sister protects her baby sister. We see this and our eyes lit up with joy and contentment. We are doing a good job Team.
My younger daughter was very demanding, she slept less, nursed more, almost round the clock (she was more or less the same till fifteen months), so I could afford very little time to my elder child. Apart from her daily routines I could not give her anytime. But the good part was that her father took over after coming back from work. I had to make her sit quietly so that the little one could sleep and I could finish my chores. The poor thing couldn’t even play on her own because one small noise and the little one wakes up. Good time started once she started going to her play school. At least the morning time she could play with her friends and afternoon she could rest.
I miss my days with my elder daughter alone but wonder how I am handling these two together. I miss sleeping with her peacefully and at times admire that how independent she had been. She loves playing on her own, very unlikely to her sibling. She did not get her mother in the first year of her life but she never complained. As soon as she became two she got one competitor, she agitated but coped up. Now apart from snatching things or hitting incidents at times, the big sister protects her baby sister. We see this and our eyes lit up with joy and contentment. We are doing a good job Team.
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